In re Adoption of K.B.D.

ILLINOIS OFFICIAL REPORTS

Appellate Court

In re Adoption of K.B.D., 2012 IL App (1st) 121558

Appellate Court In re ADOPTION OF K.B.D., a Minor (Aaron B.D. and Jennifer D.,

Caption Petitioners-Appellees, v. Vicki S., n/k/a Vicki F., Respondent-Appellant).

District & No. First District, Sixth Division

Docket No. 1-12-1558

Filed December 14, 2012

Held The natural father of a nine-year-old child and the father’s former wife

(Note: This syllabus were properly allowed to adopt the child following the entry of a finding

constitutes no part of that the child’s mother was unfit based on depravity, since the finding of

the opinion of the court depravity was not against the manifest weight of the evidence and

but has been prepared petitioners had standing to petition for the adoption of the child, despite

by the Reporter of the fact that they were no longer married.

Decisions for the

convenience of the

reader.)

Decision Under Appeal from the Circuit Court of Cook County, No. 10-COAD-04; the

Review Hon. Susan Fox Gillis, Judge, presiding.

Judgment Affirmed.

Counsel on Douglas W. Graham, of Chicago, for appellant.

Appeal

Kathleen Hogan Morrison, of Kathleen Hogan Morrison, P.C., of

Chicago, for appellees.

Panel JUSTICE R. GORDON delivered the judgment of the court, with

opinion.

Presiding Justice Lampkin and Justice Reyes concurred in the judgment

and opinion.

OPINION

¶1 The instant case arises from respondent Vicki F.’s appeal of the trial court’s order

terminating her parental rights during a contested adoption proceeding, thereby permitting

the adoption of nine-year-old K.B.D. (the child) by petitioners Aaron B.D. and Jennifer D.

Vicki claims that the trial court’s finding that she was unfit was against the manifest weight

of the evidence. For the reasons that follow, we affirm.

¶2 BACKGROUND

¶3 I. Pretrial Procedural History

¶4 On January 5, 2010, Aaron and Jennifer filed a petition to adopt the child, who was born

on April 20, 2003, to Aaron and Vicki. They stated that they were married and that Aaron

and Vicki were never married. They further stated that the child was in the custody of and

resided with Aaron and Jennifer. They stated that Aaron had sole custody of the child and

consented to his adoption of the child.

¶5 They claimed that Vicki demonstrated evidence of her intent to forego her parental rights

by failing for a period of more than 12 months to maintain contact with or plan for the future

of the child even though she was physically able to do so and further claimed that Vicki

failed for a period of more than 12 months to make a good-faith effort to provide a

reasonable amount of financial support for the child. They claimed that Vicki had failed to

maintain a reasonable degree of interest, concern, or responsibility for the welfare of the

child and was therefore an unfit person, making her consent to the adoption unnecessary. The

petition accordingly requested that Vicki’s parental rights be terminated and sought leave to

adopt the child.

¶6 On January 7, 2010, a guardian ad litem (GAL) was appointed to represent the interests

of the child.

¶7 On February 16, 2010, Vicki filed a pro se answer and an objection to the petition for

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adoption,1 requesting an order denying the petition for adoption and an award of permanent

custody of the child. The answer included a notarized verification of Vicki’s signature, but

neither document was verified.

¶8 On March 19, 2010, Vicki requested an attorney to be appointed for her based on her low

income. The trial court responded by supplying a “298 Petition” for Vicki to complete,

advising her that based on the materials she had submitted, it appeared that she would not

qualify for appointment of counsel, but that no decision would be made until she had

submitted the petition. The trial court also provided Vicki with the contact information for

several low-cost legal service organizations.

¶9 On April 26, 2010, the court entered an order giving Aaron and Jennifer leave to file an

amended petition by May 17, 2010, giving Vicki until June 14, 2010, to file an answer or

otherwise plead, and continuing the matter to June 28, 2010, for a status hearing.

¶ 10 On May 13, 2010, Aaron and Jennifer filed an amended petition to adopt the child,

adding depravity as a second ground for finding Vicki unfit. Attached to the amended

petition was an order issued by the El Paso County district court in Colorado on April 28,

2006, incorporating the transcript of a “Permanent Order Hearing” before that court on

March 15, 2006.

¶ 11 During the hearing, the Colorado court considered a report prepared by Dr. George

Nicholos, a clinical and consulting psychologist. To the extent that there were any issues

concerning credibility, the court specifically found that the testimony of Dr. Nicholos was

more credible than the testimony of Vicki on any matters in which there was a conflict. The

court further found that Dr. Nicholos had carefully weighed the effect of his

recommendations on the child and that “any parenting time other than what is specifically

proposed by Dr. Nichol[o]s would endanger [the child’s] physical health and would

significantly impair[ ] [the child’s] emotional development.” Accordingly, the court ordered

that all of the recommendations made by Dr. Nicholos be adopted and incorporated into the

court’s order. With regard to supervised visitation, the court ordered the parties to develop

a “Parenting Time Plan” consistent with Dr. Nicholos’ recommendations.

¶ 12 Also attached to the petition were the 13 recommendations made in Dr. Nicholos’ report

and adopted by the Colorado court. Dr. Nicholos recommended: (1) that Aaron have sole

parental and decision-making responsibility for the child and wherever possible should try

to communicate with Vicki in order to obtain her opinions concerning the child; (2) that the

child live primarily with Aaron in Illinois; (3) that Vicki’s parenting time initially be

supervised; (4) that the court appoint a child and family investigator or parent coordinator

to monitor and facilitate the progress of the case; (5) that Aaron remain in the role of primary

parent with sole decision-making responsibility even if Vicki progressed to fully

unsupervised contact with the child; (6) that Vicki abide by the decisions and directives made

by Aaron concerning the child, including not pressuring or undoing any of Aaron’s positions

or philosophies with the child; (7) that Vicki immediately begin intensive individual

psychotherapy with a therapist experienced in substance abuse and consult with a psychiatrist

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The objection was not filed pro se, but was signed by an “attorney-in-fact.”

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about the possibility of intervention with mood-stabilizing or antidepressant medication; (8)

that Aaron provide Vicki with all significant medical, psychological, school, or social

information about the child as reasonably soon as it becomes available; (9) that Aaron agree

that under emergency circumstances, Vicki may sign legal releases for medical treatment or

to take other necessary measures; (10) that each party promptly notify the other of any

changes in addresses or phone numbers; (11) that whenever possible, Aaron and Vicki

communicate via email; (12) that neither party discuss any legal matters with the child

related to the case or any disputed financial matters; and (13) that telephone access be

unlimited for the child between the two households, but that the child never be pressured or

coerced into speaking with either parent, and that at the beginning of the parenting plan,

Vicki be allowed to call the child no more than twice per week.

¶ 13 On June 21, 2010, Aaron and Jennifer filed a motion to strike Vicki’s pleadings and for

entry of a judgment order of adoption. The motion stated that Vicki’s answer and objection

to the petition did not comply with Illinois law since they were not verified and did not

include the required filing fee. The motion further stated that the sheriff of Jefferson County,

Colorado, was unable to serve Vicki with Aaron and Jennifer’s amended petition at the

address she included on her pleadings. Consequently, Aaron and Jennifer asked that Vicki

be held in default and that a judgment order be entered as adoption was in the best interest

of the child.

¶ 14 On the same day, the GAL filed a report recommending that the court enter a judgment

of adoption as being in the best interests of the child. Also on the same day, the trial court

entered an order granting Aaron and Jennifer’s motion, striking Vicki’s pleadings, entering

a default against her, and terminating her parental rights. The trial court entered a separate

judgment order of adoption finding Vicki “unfit to have the care, custody and control of the

minor on the grounds of abandonment and failure to maintain a reasonable degree of interest,

concern or responsibility as to the welfare of the child.” The court further ordered that the

prayer for adoption be granted as it was in the best welfare and interests of the child.

¶ 15 On July 20, 2010, Vicki, through her attorney, filed a motion to vacate the default and

the judgment order of adoption. The motion stated that Vicki had been representing herself,

and that she came to court on June 28, 2010. When she arrived at court, she discovered that

an order of default had been entered for failure to file proper pleadings; Vicki claimed that

she did not understand what default was or that she had filed incorrectly. Vicki further

claimed that she had called the clerk of the court and was told that she did not need to appear

for a motion set on June 21, 2010. Vicki claimed that she did not receive the order of default

until she appeared for trial.

¶ 16 On July 26, 2010, the court vacated the order of default and the judgment order of

adoption, and set the matter for a hearing on the motion for default on August 24, 2010.

¶ 17 On July 30, 2010, Vicki filed a motion for leave to file a response to the adoption petition

and to copy the court file, which the trial court denied on August 2, 2010, as premature until

the court ruled on the motion for default and for entry of a judgment order of adoption.

¶ 18 On August 9, 2010, Vicki filed a motion for leave to file a response to Aaron and

Jennifer’s motion to strike Vicki’s pleadings, which was granted on August 16, 2010. In her

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response, Vicki admitted that she did not pay the required fee for filing her pleadings, but

stated that she had not been aware of the fee and now had an appearance on file and had paid

the fee. She claimed that she had planned to represent herself at the July 28, 2010, hearing2

and did not understand that the motion set for June 21, 2010, canceled the hearing set for July

28, so she appeared on July 28 and discovered the judgment order of adoption had been

entered on June 21.

¶ 19 Vicki claimed that her pleadings should not be stricken and that a default should not be

entered because she suffered from the disabilities of depression and attention deficit disorder

(ADD); she claimed that due to these disabilities, she received a disability check from the

Veterans’ Administration (VA), which has found her to be 80% disabled. Vicki claimed that

these disabilities made it difficult for her to understand and process the proceedings. Vicki

further claimed that an adoption would not be in the child’s best interest since she had been

the child’s caregiver for the first three years of his life and had maintained regular contact

since then. She claimed that since Aaron already had sole custody of the child, “there is no

reason for an adoption other than the elimination of the mother from the child’s life.”

¶ 20 On August 23, 2010, Aaron and Jennifer filed a reply to Vicki’s response. They stated

that there was never a hearing set for July 28, 2010, but there was a status hearing set for

June 28. They claimed that they filed the motion to strike on June 3, 2010,3 and Vicki

received notice of the hearing and in fact on June 21, called the court, the office of the GAL,

Aaron and Jennifer, and Aaron and Jennifer’s attorney, asking for information about “ ‘the

next court date.’ ”

¶ 21 On August 24, 2010, the trial court denied Aaron and Jennifer’s motion to strike and for

entry of a judgment order of adoption, instead ordering the matter to proceed to a termination

hearing.

¶ 22 On September 30, 2010, Aaron and Jennifer filed a motion, which the GAL joined,

seeking an order requiring a mental examination and random drug testing of Vicki. The

motion claimed that Vicki had placed her mental health into issue in the case, since her

defense against the default was her testimony about disability findings made by the VA and

certain drugs she consumes, which she testified explained her prior inconsistent and false

testimony under oath.

¶ 23 On November 29, 2010, the trial court entered an order granting Aaron and Jennifer’s

motion for drug testing and for a psychological evaluation, ordering Vicki to submit to a

psychological evaluation to address her alleged ADD and drug use and her ability to parent,

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Although Vicki’s response lists the date as July 28, 2010, the record indicates that the

hearing was on June 28, 2010, which is the date that Vicki earlier stated she appeared before the

court.

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There is a notice of motion in the record stating that it was sent on June 3, 2010, but the

file-stamp indicates that it was filed on August 24, 2010. The document is labeled as an “exhibit,”

but it is not clear what the exhibit relates to, as the document preceding it in the record is a court

order.

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and ordering Vicki to submit to random drug testing, to take place in Colorado.

¶ 24 On January 3, 2011, the court entered an order continuing the case “for the execution of

a Final and Irrevocable Consent to Adoption by Respondent, Vicki ***.” No such consent

was ever filed.

¶ 25 On January 18, 2011, Aaron and Jennifer filed a motion to compel Vicki to respond to

outstanding discovery and to impose sanctions against her for failure to respond to discovery.

On the same day, they also filed a motion for rule to show cause why Vicki should not be

held in contempt for failing to complete the psychological examination or comply with the

random drug testing ordered by the court.

¶ 26 On February 7, 2011, the trial court entered an order granting Aaron and Jennifer leave

to file a second amended petition to adopt; ordering the parties to have no contact with each

other; and ordering the parties not to be given information as to current residences or places

of work as disclosed in any discovery responses given to counsel.

¶ 27 On February 17, 2011, Aaron and Jennifer filed a second amended petition to adopt the

child. The second amended petition was identical to the amended petition, except that Aaron

and Jennifer were no longer listed as married persons but as single persons; the petition

stated that Aaron and Jennifer recently divorced, but would continue to share parenting

responsibilities for the child.

¶ 28 On March 22, 2011, Vicki filed a motion to dismiss the second amended petition

pursuant to section 2-619(d) of the Code of Civil Procedure (735 ILCS 5/2-619(d) (West

2010)), claiming that since Aaron and Jennifer were no longer married, the adoption was no

longer a “related adoption” and they could not adopt the child since he was not “available for

adoption.”

¶ 29 On March 28, 2011, Aaron and Jennifer filed an emergency motion seeking court

intervention to terminate Vicki’s “harassment campaign” against Aaron. The motion claimed

that beginning on March 24, 2011, a person named Gordon Hansen began contacting the

councilmen and mayor of a city in Illinois4; Aaron is also a councilman in the same city. The

motion further claimed that Hansen falsely identified himself as a “ ‘court-appointed

investigator’ ” investigating Aaron’s ethics. Hansen “falsely created the impression” that

Aaron was the subject of a criminal investigation and indicated that he was a court-appointed

investigator as to a family court matter involving Vicki. He asked the councilmen whether

they knew of any criminal activity involving Aaron, knew of his business activities, or knew

of any police reports. The motion claimed that this conduct was in violation of the February

7, 2011, court order barring the parties from contacting each other.

¶ 30 The motion claimed that after learning of Hansen’s conduct, Aaron contacted him at the

telephone number he had provided the councilmen. Hansen told him that he had been

retained by Vicki’s attorney. The motion asked for the court to hold Vicki and her counsel

in contempt, to strike Vicki’s pleadings, to hold Vicki in default, and to enter the judgment

order of adoption.

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For the sake of protecting the child’s identity, we do not name the city.

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¶ 31 On April 4, 2011, the trial court entered an order denying Aaron and Jennifer’s request

for a contempt order, taking their request for an order striking Vicki’s pleadings under

consideration, and denying Vicki’s motion to dismiss the second amended petition for

adoption.

¶ 32 On April 25, 2011, the trial court entered an order in which it, inter alia, denied Aaron

and Jennifer’s motion to strike Vicki’s pleadings.

¶ 33 On May 26, 2011, the GAL filed an emergency motion for sanctions, claiming that Vicki

had recently “unleashed a series of offensive and intrusive comments” on social media Web

sites in violation of the court’s orders.

¶ 34 On May 26, 2011, the trial court entered a temporary restraining order against Vicki,

barring her from contacting Aaron or his businesses by any means, including through social

media Web sites; the restraining order also applied to contacting Aaron’s business associates,

employees, and Web sites.

¶ 35 On June 6, 2011, the court denied Aaron and Jennifer’s motion for a contempt order and

ordered that Vicki have no contact by any means, directly or indirectly, with Aaron or

Jennifer, the child, Aaron’s businesses, or Aaron’s family, friends, employees, associates,

vendors, and business sources. The court further ordered Vicki to immediately remove all

Internet postings concerning herself, the child, or Aaron.

¶ 36 Subsequently, the trial court again entered a number of orders for Vicki to immediately

remove all references to Aaron, Jennifer, or the child from the Internet and to request

members of her friends and family to do the same.

¶ 37 On February 14, 2012, the court entered an order on Aaron and Jennifer’s motion in

limine, barring Vicki from, inter alia: (1) attacking the custody order entered by the El Paso

County district court in Colorado or from attempting to relitigate the case that produced the

custody order; and (2) attacking the parental evaluation and recommendations of Dr.

Nicholos, which were adopted and incorporated into the custody order entered on March 15,

2006.

¶ 38 On March 1, 2012, the GAL filed a motion for sanctions against Vicki for her failure to

remove materials referencing the child from the Internet, despite at least four prior court

orders to do so; the GAL also noted that at least one of the references to the child was posted

after the first court order was entered.

¶ 39 II. Trial

¶ 40 On March 1, 2012, the parties came before the trial court for trial, which lasted 10 days.

¶ 41 A. Aaron

¶ 42 Aaron testified on his own behalf that he was formerly married to Jennifer and had three

children: the child, who was eight; and two children, ages six and three. He further testified

that he held three political positions, including a position as councilman of the city in which

he resided. He also owned a number of entrepreneurial businesses, most of which he owned

outright and some of which he owned as a partner. Aaron testified that despite being

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divorced, he and Jennifer continued to parent the three children together, constantly

communicating and even having family dinners together several times during the week; he

testified that during their divorce, they “worked it out between ourselves” and came up with

a co-parenting agreement.

¶ 43 Aaron testified that he had been involved in judo and was accepted at the Olympic

Training Center (OTC) in Colorado Springs and met Vicki in early 2001 while living at the

OTC. He was 22 or 23 at the time, and had recently graduated from college. While he was

at the OTC, he also became employed by an event production company that produced mixed

martial arts events, and he competed in some of their events. Additionally, Aaron served as

an announcer for the company’s oil wrestling events. Aaron testified that there would always

be one or two women hired “to make sure that we had a show,” and some women would be

selected from the crowd, which was predominantly male.

¶ 44 Aaron testified that he first met Vicki at one of the company’s events and spoke to her

afterwards at the bar. They went back to her home that evening and went on “probably two

or three dates and *** that was probably the whole thing of that.” Aaron testified that they

had a sexual relationship, which began on their second or third date. Aaron testified that

during that time, he was immature and it was not uncommon for him to date several people

at the same time.

¶ 45 Aaron testified that his sexual relationship with Vicki lasted “[a]t most two weeks” and

that he believed that Vicki “liked” him. Aaron testified that Vicki participated in the oil

wrestling once, although he never asked her to do so. When he told her that he was no longer

interested in “continu[ing] on with hanging out with her,” she began visiting the OTC at

random hours and placing letters and notes underneath his door; she also began coming to

his events and even came to a house that Aaron was house-sitting. Aaron testified that there

were times that he needed to ask security at the events to not allow her to enter or to have her

removed; Aaron classified her behavior as “a bit scary.” A few months after the relationship

ended, Aaron left Colorado to move back to Illinois. He learned about 2½ years later, when

obtaining an emergency order for custody, that Vicki claimed that he had raped her.

¶ 46 Aaron testified that he was still in Colorado, teaching at a martial arts studio, when Vicki

interrupted his class to tell him that she was pregnant and he was the father of the child. He

asked her to let him finish his class and they would discuss it. Aaron testified that when

Vicki told him she was pregnant, he did not believe her; he thought it was a way for Vicki

to attempt to rekindle their physical relationship. He purchased another pregnancy test and

asked her to take the test; it was positive. She asked him to go with her to the doctor, which

he did, and the doctor confirmed that she was pregnant and conception occurred at

approximately the time Aaron and Vicki had their relationship. Aaron and Vicki had a

discussion about whether to terminate the pregnancy, and Aaron told Vicki that it was her

decision to make. He told her that he would be a supportive father, but that he was not

interested in any other kind of relationship with Vicki.

¶ 47 Aaron testified that Vicki asked him several times for money to obtain an abortion. He

asked her where she was planning on having the abortion, and he sent a money order made

out in the name of the clinic to her. She sent it back to Aaron’s parents in Illinois. Vicki then

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asked for $1,000 for an abortion at Planned Parenthood, which Aaron provided, made out

to Planned Parenthood; he testified that Vicki wanted the money order made out to her,

which was “never *** going to fly.” Aaron did not hear from Vicki until two to three weeks

before the child was born, when Aaron was back in Illinois; it was at that time that Aaron

learned Vicki was still pregnant.5 When Aaron learned that Vicki was going to give birth, he

made plans to visit the child in California, where Vicki was living.

¶ 48 Aaron testified that he did not attend the child’s birth because he was not clear on when

exactly he would be born, but that the hospital sent him photographs after the birth and he

immediately made plans to visit San Francisco; he went to San Francisco less than three

weeks after the child was born. After the child was born, Aaron obtained records from the

hospital about his birth, which included a medical report. The report mentioned several risk

factors involved with the child’s birth: “[Vicki] has significant cycle social risk factors,

including depression. She has psychiatric hospitalizations in the past. She has an assault

charge outstanding in Colorado and no contact at this time with the father of the baby.” The

report also stated that prenatal care was questionable: “Prenatal began at 25 and [2]7 weeks

and was complicated by; 1, history of multidrug overdose; 2, history of psychiatric

hospitalizations; 3, late prenatal care; 4, difficult blood draw.” The report also included a

plan for Vicki upon the child’s birth: “1, a social service consult for mother, maternity

history of drug overdose and psychiatric problems and poor health condition.”

¶ 49 Aaron testified that after the child was born, he wanted to be legally declared the child’s

birth father and have his name on the child’s birth certificate. Vicki had given the child a

name that included Aaron’s middle name, which was also his father’s first name, and his last

name. Aaron and Vicki met with Vicki’s father, who was an attorney, and tried to come to

an agreement as to visitation and child support. Vicki’s father drafted an agreement, and

Aaron said that he needed his attorney to review it before he signed anything. The agreement

was never signed, because Aaron’s attorney felt that it was not a fair agreement and needed

modification. After Aaron told Vicki that he wanted to redraft parts of the agreement, she

informed him that during her pregnancy, she had met a man named Joel S., and that they

were moving and were no longer interested in having Aaron as part of the child’s life.

¶ 50 Aaron testified that several times, Aaron and Jennifer made plans to visit the child in

California; Vicki was initially open to the plans until she discovered Jennifer was planning

on coming, at which point she canceled the plans. Aaron testified that Vicki tried to prevent

him from having a relationship with the child by refusing contact with him and not being

available due to her “nomadic lifestyle” and constant moving.

¶ 51 “[A]while later,” Aaron visited the child in Missouri. Aaron testified that he had made

arrangements to fly Vicki and the child to Illinois so that he could meet Aaron’s family, but

Vicki changed the tickets that Aaron had purchased to Missouri and informed Aaron that if

he and his family wanted to visit the child, they would need to drive to Missouri, where she

was staying with her grandparents. Aaron, his mother, and Jennifer went to Missouri to visit

the child, and they had the opportunity to spend several days with him. Aaron believed that,

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at that time, Vicki had married Joel.

¶ 52 Aaron testified that he began several court cases to establish parentage of the child. He

testified that, in relation to a case he had filed in California, he was ordered to submit to a

DNA test, which he did. He was required to submit to a DNA test twice more, because Vicki

never completed her portion of the testing. Finally, the case was dismissed due to Vicki’s

failure to cooperate. At that point, he contacted someone who worked at the place where

Vicki kept a post office box, and that person told him that her forwarding address was in

Hawaii. Aaron discovered that in 2004, Vicki and Joel left California and moved to Hawaii.

Aaron testified that when he learned that Vicki had moved to Hawaii, he hired an attorney

and attempted to establish parentage there, but was not successful because she was unable

to serve Vicki after a number of attempts.

¶ 53 In 2005, Aaron began a “wide net search” for the child, contacting different police

departments in areas where Vicki had ever lived to obtain her address. As a result, Aaron

obtained a number of police reports and incident reports where Vicki and Joel had domestic

disputes.

¶ 54 On Memorial Day weekend of 2005, Vicki contacted Aaron at approximately midnight.

She told him that she and the child were at a halfway house or shelter in Missouri and needed

to come to Illinois because she had nowhere else to go, and she requested a bus ticket. Aaron

immediately contacted the bus terminal and paid for a bus or train ticket and picked them up

at the station. When they arrived, the child appeared to be in “okay” condition, and Vicki had

10 to 12 bags. He took them to a hotel near his home and rented them a room. Aaron testified

that when the child arrived, the child “had a hard time talking” due to a speech delay and also

had significant tooth decay.

¶ 55 On May 30, 2005, Aaron and Vicki signed a voluntary acknowledgment of paternity,

which Aaron asked Vicki to sign when she came to Illinois from the shelter. On May 31,

Aaron filed a complaint in the circuit court of Cook County to determine the existence of a

parent/child relationship and also included a request for custody.

¶ 56 The same day that Aaron filed the complaint, he and Vicki had a confrontation at a

grocery store. Vicki informed Aaron that she and the child only ate organic food, but she had

no money and needed food, so Aaron took Vicki and the child to the grocery store. Aaron

testified that Vicki picked out items that she would not be able to store in her hotel room,

since it did not have a refrigerator, including a gallon of milk, and when Aaron told her so,

she turned to the child and showed him the milk, screaming, “do you see what your dad

doesn’t want to get for you? Do you see this? You’re not good enough for your dad to get

this for you because he doesn’t care about you.” Aaron “lost [his] cool” and became

extremely upset. He picked up the child and called the police while leaving the grocery store.

¶ 57 Later that day or the next day, Vicki was served with the parentage complaint. Aaron was

not present when she was served, but his mother was. After Vicki was served, she contacted

her brother, Alan H., who picked her and the child up and drove her back to Colorado. The

parentage action was later moved to Colorado.

¶ 58 Aaron testified that a few months later, he traveled to Colorado after being contacted by

Vicki’s brother Alan. After speaking with Alan, Aaron determined that Vicki was in jail.

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Aaron spoke to his attorney, who recommended obtaining an emergency order to remove the

child, which Aaron did. Once the emergency order was obtained, Aaron, Jennifer, and

Aaron’s parents drove to Colorado, where they were met by Aaron’s attorney, who contacted

the police department to attempt to locate the child. The police located the child at Vicki’s

mother’s house, presented her with the emergency order, removed the child, and gave the

child to Aaron. Aaron and his family then took the child back to Illinois.6 Aaron testified that

immediately upon returning to Illinois, he took the child to a pediatrician to have him

examined, and the pediatrician stated that the child had speech delays.

¶ 59 While Aaron was waiting for the police to return with the child, he heard that Vicki had

contacted the police and wanted to file a rape charge against Aaron for the encounter that

resulted in conception of the child. Upon his return to Illinois, Aaron was contacted by the

Illinois Department of Children and Family Services (DCFS). The inspector from DCFS

examined the child and told Aaron that there were allegations that Aaron was slicing the

child’s feet.

¶ 60 Aaron testified that, while driving back from Colorado, he had noticed splinters in the

child’s feet. Vicki called him, wanting to speak to the child, and Aaron asked her why the

child had splinters in his feet; Vicki responded that he had been running on a deck and

perhaps got them there. The DCFS report against Aaron was ultimately deemed unfounded.

Aaron requested that DCFS save the record of the unfounded report in case it was ever

necessary.

¶ 61 At approximately the same time in July 2005, Vicki sought and obtained civil orders of

protection against Aaron and her brother Alan. Vicki also accused Aaron of sexually abusing

the child, resulting in Aaron being contacted by the police, who determined that the report

was unfounded and “blatantly false.” DCFS also investigated the matter, finding the report

unfounded, and advised Aaron that the reports against him were “probable[ ] intentionally

false reports.”

¶ 62 During that time, Aaron was investigating Vicki on his own due to the custody case they

were involved in. He contacted all of the hospitals and police departments in the areas he

believed Vicki had lived, getting any information that was available; he also performed

Internet searches. Aaron testified that he received a number of incident reports involving

Vicki. Additionally, as a result of his investigation, he had concerns about drug usage by

Vicki. Aaron testified that he knew when he met Vicki that she used marijuana, but he was

also sent a videotape by Joel of Vicki and Joel using drugs while the child was present, and

he was aware that Vicki’s drug testing consistently was positive for marijuana and some form

of amphetamine. Aaron further testified that, based on his research, Vicki supported herself

by working as an exotic dancer in multiple states; he testified that her work did not concern

him because she did not do it in the presence of the child.

¶ 63 Aaron testified that he made a report to Colorado Child Protective Services concerning

Vicki and Chris, Vicki’s boyfriend, and that the resulting report, completed in October 2005,

was inconclusive and stated that there did not appear to be any child protection issues. Aaron

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testified that he made the complaint based on the child telling him that Chris had hit him.

¶ 64 Aaron testified that when the custody case began, his and Vicki’s attorneys negotiated

that during the pendency of the proceeding, Aaron would fly to Colorado to pick up the child,

return to Illinois with him for 12 days, then fly the child back to Colorado for the child to

spend the next 12 days with Vicki.

¶ 65 During Christmastime in 2005, Aaron had a conversation with Vicki in which they were

discussing their plans for the holiday. Vicki informed him that she did not believe in

Christmas or holidays because they were against her beliefs and she did not want the child

to participate in any Christmas activities. Aaron informed Vicki that he had planned to take

photographs for Christmas, and when he went to pick up the child for his visit, discovered

that Vicki had shaved the child’s head “completely to the skin.” Vicki told Aaron that the

child had gum in his hair and that she was not happy that Aaron was planning on taking

Christmas pictures.

¶ 66 Aaron testified that in February 2006, he took the child to a dentist. In order to do so,

Aaron petitioned the court in Colorado because Vicki objected; Aaron testified that Vicki

informed him that if he had the dental work completed, she would have it removed when the

child returned to Colorado. He testified that she wanted to take a holistic approach to the

child’s dental work and felt that the materials the dentist was planning to use were not

appropriate. Ultimately, Aaron was permitted to have the dental work performed, which he

did during one of the times that the child was with him in Illinois. The dentist needed to

place 2 crowns and fill 10 to 12 cavities; the child was approximately three years old at the

time. Aaron testified that the dental work cost several thousand dollars, which he paid.

¶ 67 Aaron testified that once, during the pendency of the custody case, he was contacted by

Joel, Vicki’s ex-husband, who sent Aaron materials Joel thought would be relevant to the

case. Based on that material, as well as material he received from the VA, Aaron determined

that Vicki had attempted suicide twice. He also determined that she was institutionally

hospitalized for psychiatric treatment twice.

¶ 68 The Colorado court proceedings ended in the court awarding Aaron sole custody over the

child. The court’s decision was based on the report of Dr. George Nicholos; Aaron testified

that Dr. Nicholos observed the child in person with his shaved head and included that

information in his report. Aaron also testified about compliance with Dr. Nicholos’

recommendations, which were adopted by the court. Aaron first testified that Vicki was

entitled to supervised visitation, but that parenting time was ultimately suspended. Next, the

court recommended that the court appoint a child and family investigator or parent

coordinator to monitor the progress of the case; Aaron testified that Randy Schaffer was

designated as the coordinator. When Aaron spoke to Schaffer, Schaffer informed him that

he needed a retainer, and Aaron immediately sent a check to him. Schaffer held the check for

six months while waiting for Vicki to send her portion of the retainer. When Vicki did not

send a check, Schaffer returned the check to Aaron with a letter stating that he had never

received any information from Vicki nor did he receive her portion of the retainer.

¶ 69 Aaron also testified that the court ordered that Vicki was to abide by Aaron’s decisions

concerning the child, but she disagreed with him on nearly all of his decisions. She was also

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ordered not to pressure the child or undermine any of Aaron’s positions or philosophies with

the child, but did so by telling the child on the phone that he did not need to listen to what

Aaron or Jennifer said and that Jennifer was not his mother. Aaron further testified that

initially, he kept Vicki informed about the child’s activities and health, as required by the

court order, but Vicki was hostile or made demands. “[A]fter awhile,” Vicki lost interest and

did not call or ask about anything. He testified that although she was not barred from doing

so, Vicki did not attend the child’s school events or contact the child’s school or doctors; he

testified that in the last six years, she contacted the child’s teacher once. He further testified

that Vicki never moved to Illinois, where the child resided, but instead lived in a number of

other states, including California, Missouri, and Colorado.

¶ 70 Aaron testified that after the Colorado case ended, Vicki was awarded telephone

visitation time and she did a “pretty good diligent job” in calling the child twice a week for

the first year. After that, her telephone calls became “sporadic at best.” The telephone calls

were also sometimes inappropriate and were made outside of the times scheduled for Vicki

to call.

¶ 71 Aaron acknowledged that there were times when he terminated her telephone calls. He

explained that at the beginning, the child was very young, and he would sometimes be

disinterested in taking a telephone call, so Aaron and Jennifer would suggest things for him

to talk about. After some time, Vicki objected, claiming that they were telling the child what

to say, so they stopped doing that and simply handed the phone to the child. Sometimes, the

child would tell Vicki that he needed to do something else, and Vicki would raise her voice,

so Aaron and Jennifer would end the conversation. Additionally, they ended conversations

when she began saying things like that Santa Claus did not exist, when Vicki raised her voice

or “something crazy” was occurring in the background, or when Vicki’s speech was slurred;

Aaron explained that the telephone conversations were on speakerphone, so he or Jennifer

was able to monitor the phone calls.

¶ 72 Aaron testified that in addition to phone visitation time, Vicki was awarded supervised

visitation time. Visitation occurred three times, the first time in Illinois and the second and

third times in Colorado. Aaron testified that the first time, he and his attorney believed it was

in the child’s best interest to have the supervised parenting time, so Aaron covered the

expense. The second time, he again felt it was in the child’s best interest, and Vicki could not

afford it, so Aaron covered the expense of the visitation. Both Aaron and Vicki were present

with the child, along with a supervisor and one of Vicki’s friends. Aaron dropped the child

off and the supervisor brought the child inside. Less than 10 minutes later, the supervisor

called Aaron and asked him to return to pick the child up. When Aaron returned, the

supervisor was waiting outside. She told Aaron that Vicki was inside with the child, who was

refusing to behave; Vicki would not let go of the child and the supervisor had contacted the

police, who took the child from Vicki and returned him to Aaron, who then left with the

child.

¶ 73 The third visitation took place through a nonprofit organization called CASA, which

Vicki had contacted. After that visit, Aaron received a notice from the organization and

supervised visitation ceased.

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¶ 74 Aaron also testified about a number of times that Vicki had called him or sent him text

messages that resulted in his contacting the police. On July 13, 2005, he received a phone

call from Vicki in which Vicki yelled at him and spoke to him in a threatening manner. In

November 2006, Vicki sent threatening text messages to Aaron and Jennifer. On May 18,

2010, Vicki called Aaron and raised her voice and cursed at him.

¶ 75 Aaron testified that on June 16, 2010, he complained to the police about a person named

Mickey Windecker after he contacted Aaron by telephone. He also did independent

investigation to discover who Windecker was, including accessing Colorado’s online court

system to obtain Windecker’s criminal history, and determined that Windecker was a

“convicted child molester.” Aaron testified that Vicki gave Windecker Aaron’s personal and

business addresses, as well as his email and phone number. After doing so, Aaron purchased

a security system and a shotgun.

¶ 76 Aaron testified that it had been over five years since Vicki had seen the child and that she

had spoken with the child “[o]n and off.” Aaron further testified that Vicki was to pay child

support to Aaron, but was currently approximately $14,000 in arrears. Aaron testified that

Vicki’s sources of income were a disability check from the government and her work as an

exotic dancer. Vicki traveled across the country for her exotic dancing and had sent the child

two or three gifts, the last sent several years ago; Aaron testified that the gifts Vicki sent were

used clothing or toys that were not age-appropriate. Aaron also testified that Vicki did not

pay for expenses for which she was obligated to reimburse Aaron, such as the cost of the

supervised visits or her portion of the child’s medical expenses.

¶ 77 Aaron testified that, over a period of time, he and Vicki had exchanged emails about each

other and about the child and that, sometimes, he had sent inappropriate emails and called

Vicki “very bad things”; Aaron further testified that he had behaved immaturely and

regretted those emails. He testified that he and Vicki had not been in contact for at least two

years.

¶ 78 Aaron testified that Vicki informed him that she would consent to the adoption and that,

in fact, the adoption case began because Vicki and her attorney approached him. Vicki’s

attorney contacted Aaron in 2009, after which Aaron began to make preparations for Vicki

to execute a consent to the adoption. Aaron hired an attorney for himself and Jennifer, and

also hired an attorney to represent Vicki. However, Vicki never returned a signed consent

form to Aaron.

¶ 79 Aaron testified that at one point during the pendency of the adoption case, other

councilmen were contacted about him. Two of them contacted Aaron and informed him that

they were approached by an investigator from the Cook County State’s Attorney’s office

concerning Aaron; Aaron testified that there was no ongoing investigation about him. Aaron

testified that there was a hearing concerning this contact, in which another councilman

testified that he was contacted by someone holding himself out to be a private investigator.

After the hearing, the contact ceased.

¶ 80 Aaron testified that Vicki has posted photographs of the child on the Internet. He

observed them through social media Web sites such as Facebook, Twitter, and Myspace, and

through her blogs. Aaron testified that he cared that the child’s photograph was on the

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Internet because he “felt like it was being used in a derogatory manner.” For instance, on

Myspace, it said that the child “has been stolen or betrayed” and attempted to portray the

child’s points of view, which Aaron thought was unacceptable, since Vicki did not know

what the child was thinking. He further testified that often, the photographs would be located

next to a link to Vicki’s blog, where she made false accusations against Aaron. Aaron

testified that the photographs were available as recently as July 21, 2011. He testified that

he was able to access the Myspace photographs by creating a profile and contacting Vicki,

who accepted the “friendship,” giving Aaron access to the photographs.7

¶ 81 Aaron also testified that he had visited Vicki’s blog and testified about several entries.

Aaron testified that Vicki had a blog entry in which she referred to Aaron, Jennifer, and the

child. The blog stated that he and Jennifer yelled at Vicki on the phone several times, which

he denied, and also stated that Vicki had told the child that elves were fictional, which Aaron

confirmed that she had done; the blog also discussed Vicki’s complaints about Santa, elves,

the Easter Bunny, and Snow White.

¶ 82 Another blog entry was entitled “power and lies” and contained links to a number of Web

sites, including Aaron’s campaign Web site, his old Myspace Web site, and his companies’

Web sites. Vicki commented on the blog entry, “what BS.”

¶ 83 Another blog entry was dated May 19, 2009, and was entitled “conception.” Aaron

testified that the entry contained a large amount of false information about him, including

that Vicki told him that she did not wish to have sex with him and that he did so anyway,

pinning her down and covering her mouth.

¶ 84 Aaron testified about the contents of another of Vicki’s blogs. He denied Vicki’s claims

in the blog entry that he hurt her physically, told her he wanted to rape her, or sexually

abused the child. Aaron testified that he did, in fact, make a complaint about Chris H.,

Vicki’s boyfriend, as stated on the blog. Aaron explained that during his investigation on the

custody case, he discovered information about Chris’s background and complained to the

court and to Dr. Nicholos. He testified that he was informed that at some point, Chris died

in an accident, but denied having anything to do with the accident, as Vicki claimed in the

blog entry.

¶ 85 Aaron testified that information with the child’s name, such as Vicki’s blogs or the

child’s photographs on social media, was easy to find on Google, because his first name was

spelled in an unusual manner and his middle name was unique. Aaron testified that to the

best of his knowledge, this information was still available on the Internet.

¶ 86 Aaron testified that there were a number of other blogs and photographs available

through Vicki’s Myspace profile. Aaron further testified that one of her blog entries

referenced Vicki contacting Aaron’s friends on Facebook and Twitter. During the pendency

of the adoption case, Aaron became aware of Vicki’s negative postings about him on Twitter

and that she had contacted his Twitter contacts. Once Aaron became aware of them, he

obtained a court order temporarily restraining that conduct.

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The GAL noted that she was able to access the photographs without creating a profile by

performing a Google search.

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¶ 87 Aaron then testified about Vicki’s postings on Facebook. He testified that she created a

public profile in the child’s name, which included negative comments about Aaron and links

to articles about him, and included photos and video of the child.

¶ 88 B. Jennifer

¶ 89 Jennifer also testified on her own behalf. Her testimony was substantially the same as

Aaron’s testimony. She testified that when Aaron returned from Colorado, they rekindled

their previous relationship.

¶ 90 Jennifer testified that in 2005, she, Aaron, and Aaron’s mother drove to Missouri to visit

the child after Vicki had changed the destination on the plane tickets that Aaron had

purchased for Vicki and the child; at that point, Jennifer and Aaron were still dating.

¶ 91 Jennifer testified that in April 2004, Aaron and Jennifer were planning on going to San

Francisco for the child’s first birthday. Vicki had been communicating with Aaron via email

and had extended an invitation for him to come. When they arrived and Vicki discovered that

Jennifer had accompanied Aaron, she did not permit Jennifer to see the child. At about this

time, Vicki married Joel, who was in the military. Jennifer testified that they lived either in

Missouri or California, but then moved to Hawaii. Vicki and Joel sporadically communicated

with Aaron and Jennifer, but Vicki sent one photograph of her, the child, and Joel that she

labeled “[the child], his mommy and his daddy.”

¶ 92 Jennifer testified that around Memorial Day 2005, they discovered that Vicki was no

longer married to Joel. Jennifer was approximately six months pregnant and living with

Aaron in Illinois. “[V]ery late in the night,” after not hearing from Vicki for “awhile,” Aaron

received a call from Vicki saying that she was in a shelter in Missouri and had nowhere to

go and asking if he would purchase a ticket for her and the child to come to Illinois. Aaron

immediately called the train station and purchased a ticket on his credit card; Aaron picked

them up and found them a hotel room. Jennifer testified that this was the first time the child

had been in Illinois.

¶ 93 Jennifer testified that while they were parenting the child, she searched for the child’s

name on Google as a precautionary measure. She discovered photographs of Vicki in

compromising and provocative positions and “ongoing rants” that Jennifer knew were

fabricated. Jennifer further testified that in investigating Vicki, to gain access to Vicki’s

Facebook and Myspace accounts, she and Aaron created a fictional “dummy” account and

requested Vicki as a “friend”; Vicki accepted, so they had access to her postings in those

accounts. Jennifer testified that Vicki posted information about getting her hair done, eating

out, and traveling at the same time that she was not paying any child support.

¶ 94 Jennifer testified that she had received threatening texts from Vicki that she reported to

the police.

¶ 95 C. Vicki

¶ 96 Vicki testified that in 1998, she joined the military, where she remained for 13 months

until she received an honorable discharge. While she was in the Army, she had attempted

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suicide; she was in a coma and remained in the hospital for two weeks, after which she was

admitted to the Lackland Air Force Base Mental Health Ward for a week. After that, she left

the Army. She remained in Texas for three years, then moved to Colorado to be near her

mother; she attempted suicide again while she lived in Texas and prior to moving to

Colorado.

¶ 97 Vicki testified that while she was living in Colorado, she met Aaron at a bar where Aaron

arranged fighting events. She testified that she knew him for about two weeks and then, at

the third event at which she saw him, a group of people including Aaron came to Vicki’s

home. The next day, Aaron took Vicki to the Renaissance Festival and throughout the week,

Vicki went to events with him. Vicki testified that on August 1, she was “making out” with

Aaron, but informed him that she was not ready to have sex, nor was she on birth control.

Aaron placed his hand over her mouth, pinned her down, inserted his penis, and immediately

ejaculated. Aaron immediately jumped up and began apologizing. Vicki became pregnant

that night.

¶ 98 Vicki testified that after she discovered she was pregnant, she was “very civil” to Aaron

and tried to be nice so that they would be able to raise the child together. Vicki testified that

she went to the doctor and followed the doctor’s advice, taking prenatal vitamins and

stopping all medications. She testified that she went to the facility where Aaron was teaching

a martial arts class and informed him that she was pregnant. He denied that she could be

pregnant and purchased another pregnancy test and made her take it. He told her that he

thought that it would be a good idea for her to have an abortion and she did not agree; he

brought up the topic of having an abortion several times.

¶ 99 Vicki testified that after the child was born, she had him immunized, but once he was 15

months old, she had done research and determined that the immunizations were harmful and

did not have him immunized further.

¶ 100 Vicki testified that after Aaron went back to Illinois, she moved in with her mother

because Vicki became sick, then moved in with her father in California for a while. Vicki

testified that Aaron first met the child in May 2003, when Vicki took the child to San

Francisco to meet him. They met at her father’s law office, and discussed a parenting

agreement for several hours. Aaron said he would have his attorney look at the agreement,

but never signed it.

¶ 101 Vicki testified that after Aaron refused to sign the parenting agreement, she filed a

paternity case in Shasta County, California. When she initiated the case, she had a DNA

sample taken for her and the child.

¶ 102 Vicki testified that Aaron indicated that he wanted to see the child for his first birthday,

but would not provide Vicki with any definite plans, so Vicki made plans to take the child

to see Joel’s family several hours away.

¶ 103 Vicki testified that she married Joel on May 7, 2004, and in September 2004, they moved

to Hawaii. Vicki called Aaron and informed him of the move. Vicki testified that her

relationship with Joel was very affectionate and he was very supportive and protective of her.

However, after they moved to Hawaii, Joel struck her; that was the first time he had been

violent toward her. Vicki left for the night, but returned after Joel begged her to come back.

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When she returned, she and Joel got into another argument and Vicki left again. Vicki

testified that she and Joel separated and reunited several times. After she separated from Joel

for the last time, she stayed in Hawaii for a while and became religious. Vicki testified that

she left Hawaii in January 2005 and went to stay with her grandmother in Missouri.

¶ 104 Vicki testified that she tried to make a relationship with Joel work but that he was

physically violent several more times; the child was never in the room when Joel was violent.

Vicki denied attacking Joel with a potato peeler. Vicki testified that after she stayed at her

grandmother’s, she went to a women’s shelter for one night because she was under the

impression that there would be resources there for her and the child; she did not like it at the

shelter. During that time, Vicki discovered that the child had seven cavities and needed work

that would cost over $5,000. She decided to call Aaron and ask him if he would help with

the child’s dental problems. Her mother took Vicki and the child to the train station and

Vicki and the child took the train to Illinois; Vicki testified that she had two small bags and

two checked bags.

¶ 105 Vicki testified that Aaron took her from the train station to a jewelry store that he owned,

where he had Vicki sign a voluntary acknowledgment of paternity in front of a witness.

Later, after going to the hotel and Aaron’s mother’s house, Aaron, Vicki, and the child went

to the grocery store. Aaron and Vicki argued about what the child should eat or drink and

Aaron became angry at the child. He yelled at the child and spanked him and, when Vicki

told him that was unacceptable, he picked up the child and took him, telling her that she was

never going to see the child again. Vicki began yelling for security and Aaron handed the

child back; someone called the police.

¶ 106 Vicki testified that she spoke to the police and they advised her to go to a shelter; Vicki

did not want to go to a shelter, so she stayed at the hotel. The next morning, Vicki was served

with a restraining order and an emergency order taking her child away. Vicki called her

father in California, because he had been a lawyer, and she felt that he would be able to help

her. Based on her father’s advice, Vicki asked Joel to pick her up, and he took her and the

child to Missouri, where Vicki met up with Alan, her brother. From there, Alan, Vicki, and

the child drove to Colorado. For the next month, Vicki stayed with Alan. The first thing

Vicki did when she got to Colorado was to find an attorney and transfer the case that Aaron

had started to Colorado.

¶ 107 Vicki testified that she did not have any problems during that month until the last day.

Vicki came home and Alan told her that she could not stay there any longer and was very

upset with her; Alan informed her that there was a warrant for her arrest. That night, Vicki

went to her mother’s house and the next day, she left the child there so that Vicki could deal

with the warrant for her arrest.

¶ 108 Vicki spent two days in jail because it was the weekend. Vicki testified that she learned

there were two warrants for her arrest; one was for a speeding ticket in 2001 or 2002 for

which she had failed to appear and the other was for three counts of assault. On Monday, she

was released by a judge who sentenced her to time served for the ticket and assigned another

court date for the assault charges. Concerning the assault, Vicki testified that in 2001, she

was ticketed for a misdemeanor assault in Pueblo, Colorado, for an altercation between her

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and three other people. Vicki signed a plea agreement and was told that as long as she did

not get into trouble over the next year, she would not need to do anything further with the

case. Vicki discovered that there had been a mistake in the Pueblo court and the plea

agreement had not been properly filed; Vicki pled guilty to harassment and another plea

agreement was entered.

¶ 109 A few days after being released from jail, Vicki took the child to her mother’s house for

the night. Her mother called Vicki and told her that the child had been taken. Vicki called

Aaron several times, upset, and he told her that she would never talk to the child again. Vicki

called her attorney, who was able to arrange a hearing on July 15, 2005; Aaron participated

by telephone. The judge ordered the child returned to Vicki. When the child returned, he was

wearing a diaper, which Vicki thought was odd, since he had been potty-trained prior to

being taken by Aaron; he also had diaper rash.

¶ 110 Vicki testified that in November 2005, when the child returned from visiting Aaron, he

had received his first haircut, and it was several different lengths and “unkempt and unruly.”

In December 2005, the child had gum stuck in his hair. Vicki attempted to remove it, but it

was stuck all the way to the root, so she had his hair cut in a buzz cut; Vicki denied shaving

the child’s head.

¶ 111 Vicki denied making a complaint to DCFS about cuts on the child’s feet. She testified

that in January 2006, she picked the child up from the police station after a visit with Aaron.

She noticed that he was timid and quiet and was very concerned about Chris, Vicki’s fiancé;

when Vicki told the child Chris was in a different corner, he ran to Chris and hugged him.

Vicki also noticed that the child had cuts on his head, a rash around his mouth, and bruises

on his legs. When they returned home, the child went to bed. Vicki was in bed the next

morning when the child came into her room and jumped on her bed. The child asked her to

“nurse him like mommy Aaron.” Vicki told the child that they did not nurse anymore, but

the child was upset and repeated himself. Vicki told the child that she did not know what he

was talking about and for him to show her what he wanted. The child pushed her down on

the bed, sat on top of her with his legs wrapped around her neck and his crotch in her face,

and again said “nurse me like mommy Aaron.” Vicki picked him up and moved him, but the

child was upset. Vicki contacted DCFS in Colorado and asked them what she should do, and

they suggested that it would be unwise for her to immediately report the incident, since

Aaron had recently filed a report against Chris and had filed reports against her in the past

and it would appear like she was filing the report in retaliation.

¶ 112 Vicki testified that between 2006 and 2010, she had a number of telephone conversations

with the child. She testified that when Aaron or Jennifer was supervising the calls, they

would be very short, but that when another family member was supervising, she would be

able to talk to the child for up to half an hour without incident. Vicki testified that the

telephone visitation stopped when Aaron told her that his attorney advised him not to let her

have phone visitation, and Vicki has not spoken to the child since; Vicki could not remember

the exact time visitation stopped, but believed it was in 2009 or 2010.

¶ 113 Vicki testified that in February 2007, she called Aaron because the child support

payments were too difficult for her to pay. Aaron told her that he would not take money from

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her if she signed adoption papers; this was the first time she had heard about adoption. Aaron

again mentioned adoption around Christmastime in 2008. At the end of 2009, Aaron again

mentioned adoption and suggested Vicki speak to an attorney, which she did.

¶ 114 Vicki testified that she called the child’s school to obtain information about him

beginning in 2007; she did not know what school he attended, so she called all of the schools

in the area, and when she discovered the correct school, she requested to speak with the

child’s teacher. She was permitted to speak with his teacher once, when the child was in first

grade. She also testified that Aaron contacted her once in 2008 to inform her that the child

had broken his arm but did not call her about any other medical issues.

¶ 115 Vicki testified that after CASA had suspended her visitation, she attempted to locate

other individuals who would be willing to supervise visitation; she filed documents with the

court with suggestions, but Aaron’s attorney objected to each individual and her requests

were denied.

¶ 116 Vicki testified that her VA disability compensation ruling, entered on November 14,

2000, found that she was 50% disabled due to major depressive disorder. She later had a

second suicide attempt that resulted in her disability rating increasing to 70% disabled.

¶ 117 Vicki testified that she recently moved and did not recall her address, but lived in

California. Vicki acknowledged putting the child’s photograph and using his name on the

Internet, but denied creating a Facebook or Myspace page for him; she testified that she

removed the postings from the Internet. She denied posting many of the things on the Internet

and testified that some of them may have been placed by her mother; she also denied the

accuracy of some of the printouts shown as exhibits. Vicki identified a number of

photographs of herself in various poses.

¶ 118 Vicki also testified to a number of traffic citations, court cases, and lease disputes. She

further testified that on several occasions, she and Joel had contact with the police in

connection with complaints of domestic violence; Vicki denied that the child was ever

present during the domestic disputes. Vicki testified that she had been raped three times by

three different men; she also testified that she was sexually assaulted as a child.

¶ 119 Vicki also testified about Windecker. A close friend recommended him as an investigator

in her case, and she met with him several times. She was not aware of Windecker’s

background when she asked him to investigate for her. Vicki testified that she asked him to

investigate Aaron’s businesses and his criminal background. She gave him Aaron’s phone

number and address, but did not ask him to do anything harmful; she testified that he was

coming to Illinois mostly to interview people and look at paperwork.

¶ 120 D. Expert Testimony

¶ 121 1. Dr. Edger

¶ 122 The GAL called one witness, Dr. Robert Edger, a board-certified psychiatrist who

performed an evaluation of Vicki at the court’s request in July 2010. Dr. Edger testified that

when he evaluated Vicki, one of the items he evaluated her for was ADD, as well as for any

other mental health issues. Dr. Edger testified that he reviewed Vicki’s medical records,

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interviewed her for approximately two hours, and had Vicki complete several questionnaires

to assist in screening for depression and ADD.

¶ 123 Dr. Edger testified that Vicki was “very dramatic” during the interview. When she came

in, she wished to videotape the session, but Dr. Edger did not want to use their session time

to set up a video recording; he testified that there was no advance notice that she would

desire the session to be videotaped. Dr. Edger testified that “her reaction was remarkable and

I outlined this in my report and then she was very paranoid about this, feeling that I ***

would basically be against her.” Dr. Edger testified that he had never had anyone request to

be videotaped in his 30 years of practice and that it was “significantly unusual.”

¶ 124 Dr. Edger testified that in reviewing Vicki’s medical records, there was never a diagnosis

of ADD, but what was “striking” was that, over a 10-year period, she was repeatedly

diagnosed with major depression, rule out bipolar disorder, anxiety, borderline personality,

and paranoia. He also testified that there were very few treatment notes in her records,

indicating that she had not been treated for her mental health issues.

¶ 125 Dr. Edger testified that there was a note of a past suicide attempt in 1999, where Vicki

was found on the side of the road at an Air Force base, having ingested tricyclic

antidepressants; Dr. Edger testified that he requested the records of her inpatient care from

Vicki’s attorney, but never received them. There was another report of “suicidal acting out”

in 2000 or 2001.

¶ 126 Dr. Edger testified that while he was interviewing Vicki, she wept, which was not

unusual, but was indicative of mood lability, which is a symptom of a mood disorder such

as depression or bipolar disorder.

¶ 127 Dr. Edger testified that he reviewed Dr. Nicholos’ report, which he found to be very

comprehensive and accurate. Dr. Edger testified that he was “struck” by “examples of

extremes” in Dr. Nicholos’ report; he pointed to the occasion of shaving the child’s head

because of gum stuck in his hair.

¶ 128 In reviewing Vicki’s records and based on his interview with her, Dr. Edger testified that

his diagnosis of Vicki would be “Bipolar II,” which was characterized by chronic recurrent

depressions punctuated by hypomanias. He opined that to treat her illness, Vicki would need

psychotherapy, a prescription for a mood stabilizer, and to stop any marijuana or

amphetamine consumption. He further opined that it would be very difficult for Vicki to

bring her behavior into line with norms in such a way that she could be an effective parent

and that her judgment and self-control were sufficiently impaired that parenting would be

difficult or impossible.

¶ 129 The GAL later recalled Dr. Edger, who testified that since the last time he was in court,

he was able to review Dr. O’Connell’s report, which referred to a conversation with Vicki’s

father. The GAL asked Dr. Edger to contact Vicki’s father and follow up on that information,

which Dr. Edger did. Dr. Edger testified that the information he received from Vicki’s father

solidified his previous opinion.

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¶ 130 2. Dr. O’Connell

¶ 131 Dr. Linda O’Connell, a clinical psychologist with a specialty in child psychology who

previously worked at DCFS, testified on Vicki’s behalf. Dr. O’Connell testified that she

evaluated Vicki’s mental health and her ability to parent. She interviewed Vicki for seven

hours, and also interviewed Vicki’s parents and maternal grandparents, and her treating

physician at the VA. She also reviewed two reports, one completed by Dr. Edger and one

completed by Dr. Nicholos; she did not look at the reports until after she had interviewed

Vicki and formed her initial impressions. She also reviewed Vicki’s medical records and

requested any documentation that was relevant to parenting and Vicki, including court orders

and transcripts. Finally, Dr. O’Connell also administered several psychological tests.

¶ 132 Dr. O’Connell testified that her initial observations of Vicki were that she seemed

disorganized, “somewhat tangential,” unfocused, and hyperverbal, but that she was

cooperative, forthcoming, and willing to answer questions, although she sometimes had

trouble knowing what was important and would elaborate on unimportant matters. Dr.

O’Connell found her of average or better intelligence. Dr. O’Connell further testified that she

observed that Vicki did not make good judgments in interpersonal matters.

¶ 133 Dr. O’Connell testified that Vicki had a number of different diagnoses at the VA,

including depression, ADD, posttraumatic stress syndrome, and personality disorders. Dr.

O’Connell concluded from the records that Vicki had consistently presented the same array

of symptoms–a high level of anxiety, poor interpersonal coping skills, depression, and

chronic trouble focusing–but some of the symptoms would be more prominent at times than

others, resulting in different diagnostic labels.

¶ 134 Dr. O’Connell testified that as part of the documents she reviewed, she read a letter from

Dr. Helfrich, the psychiatrist who had treated Vicki from 2009 until the summer of 2011. Dr.

O’Connell testified that Dr. Helfrich’s letter stated that Vicki had a history of bipolar

disorder and depression, but that she was not being responsive to medication. He concluded

that her symptoms fit those of ADD and prescribed her Ritalin, which contained an

amphetamine, and then prescribed her dextroamphetamine; his letter further stated that Vicki

was compliant with her medication, that she never asked for it to be refilled ahead of time,

and that he thought it was somewhat helpful for her.

¶ 135 Dr. O’Connell testified that Vicki’s “condition” was treatable, predominantly through

psychotherapy. She further testified that Vicki’s current psychiatrist, whom Vicki began

seeing in October 2011, arranged a 12-week dialectical behavior therapy course that Vicki

completed, and placed her on the waiting list for individual therapy.

¶ 136 Dr. O’Connell testified that she did not investigate drug abuse other than looking through

Vicki’s VA records, where her doctors did not mention it. She was aware that Vicki had a

license for medical marijuana and did not believe that Vicki’s use of marijuana was an abuse

of it, since it was her understanding that Vicki had done her best to discontinue use of it

except in the case of severe migraines.

¶ 137 Dr. O’Connell testified that Vicki has been very responsive to support and that, when

treated in a supportive manner, Vicki relaxes and “can attend to things and tries to improve

what she is doing.” She further testified that Vicki had a “sustained and continuing interest”

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in the child and that “[Vicki’s] child was the center of her life for the first two and a half

years starting with the pregnancy. She appears to have done everything for him. She appears

to love him very much and be very concerned with his well-being. She has made attempts

to continue to see him but she has not been able to but she very clearly is very attached and

has a bond and loves her child.” Dr. O’Connell concluded that Vicki “tried to do everything

that she could to be responsible to her son, to stay in touch with him and to be a part of his

life.”

¶ 138 Dr. O’Connell testified that she was aware that Vicki was an exotic dancer, and Vicki’s

parents told her that Vicki began dancing in order to earn enough money to pursue her visits

with her child and to cover her legal fees.

¶ 139 Dr. O’Connell further testified that she discussed Vicki’s criminal background with her.

She testified that Vicki explained that she had an assault charge in 2002, which Vicki

believed was resolved through plea bargain but which “reemerged” two or three years later;

while there were other small violations such as driving without a seatbelt, the assault charge

was the “major one” Dr. O’Connell was aware of.

¶ 140 Dr. O’Connell was aware that Vicki had attempted suicide when she was 20 and was

aware of a psychiatric hospitalization for a suicide attempt while Vicki was in the Army. Dr.

O’Connell testified that she did not have any concern about Vicki being suicidal now. She

also saw no evidence that Vicki would harm someone in any significant way. Dr. O’Connell

opined that none of the issues she observed made Vicki an unfit parent or affected her ability

to have contact with her child or her capacity to meet basic emotional and physical needs of

the child.

¶ 141 On cross-examination, Dr. O’Connell admitted that she was unaware of the blogs and

pictures available on the Internet, and agreed that photographs such as ones with Vicki

holding her hand on her crotch were “poor judgment.”

¶ 142 E. Other Witnesses

¶ 143 1. Dr. Baker

¶ 144 Dr. Stephanie Baker, the child’s pediatrician since July 11, 2005, testified on behalf of

Aaron and Jennifer. Dr. Baker testified that on July 11, 2005, the child had an appointment

for a physical exam, which she performed. From the exam, Dr. Baker concluded that the

child was a two-year-old with some language delays; he was only able to say seven words,

so she told Aaron to work with the child and if he was not improving, to see a speech

therapist. She also noticed that he had multiple cavities, so she recommended a dentist; the

dentist reported back to Dr. Baker that the child had extensive decay on 9 of his 20 primary

teeth. Finally, she observed several splinters in the child’s toes and feet. Dr. Baker testified

that generally, the child was in good health.

¶ 145 Dr. Baker testified that in November 2005, Vicki informed Dr. Baker’s colleague that the

child was “photosensitive,” but Dr. Baker did not believe that he was. There was also a

question of whether the child had multiple food allergies, but he did not have any. Dr. Baker

further testified that Aaron had reported that the child had not been previously vaccinated,

so the child was vaccinated in 2006. She also testified that Vicki began prenatal care at 27½

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weeks.

¶ 146 Dr. Baker testified that the allergist that the child was sent to questioned whether the

child had asthma based on an episode of bronchospasm during general anesthesia while at

the dentist, so the allergist X-rayed the child and believed that he had enlarged adenoids and

referred the child to an ear, nose, and throat doctor. The child was evaluated by the ear, nose,

and throat doctor, who recommended removing the child’s adenoids and inserting ear tubes;

Dr. Baker testified that neither of these procedures is uncommon in children. Based on her

dealings with the child over the years, Dr. Baker opined that the child was in very good

health and that his asthma was under control.

¶ 147 On cross-examination, Dr. Baker testified that at the initial exam, Aaron asked her to

perform a drug test on the child; there were no drugs found in the child’s system.

¶ 148 2. Christina Schneider

¶ 149 Christina Schneider, special assistant general counsel for DCFS, testified on Aaron and

Jennifer’s behalf. Schneider reviewed the letter sent to Aaron from DCFS, and she testified

that it was unusual for a DCFS investigator to report that something was a “blatantly false

report” and unusual that an investigator would say in that type of letter that “it clearly appears

to me that the harassment of you and [the child] is significantly increasing.” Schneider

further testified that it was unusual for an investigator to say in a letter, “anyone who has

such a history of making probable intentionally false reports cannot have the best interest and

the welfare of your son *** in mind, because of the pattern described above it is necessary

for you to continue to take all possible steps to protect [the child] and yourself from similar

harassment in the future.” She testified that it was unusual because the letter contained much

stronger language than would normally appear in such a letter.

¶ 150 3. Denise Patton

¶ 151 Aaron and Jennifer’s next witness was Denise Patton, a private adoption attorney who

was approached by Aaron and Jennifer in October 2009 to adopt the child. She testified that

the adoption was to be uncontested. Patton contacted Vicki’s attorney to discuss Vicki

signing the consent form, but once she discovered that Vicki was receiving disability income

from the VA, she contacted the attorney to discuss whether there was a mental health

condition; Patton was concerned about the validity of a consent form signed by a person with

a mental health condition. The attorney never sent Patton a letter from a physician to rule out

a mental health condition, as requested, but contacted Patton to inform her that Vicki was

changing attorneys.

¶ 152 Patton testified that Vicki’s new attorney contacted Patton and told her that Vicki stated

that if she needed to see a psychologist for a letter, she also wanted Jennifer to see a

psychologist and have a letter stating that she was a good parent and had a good relationship

with the child; Jennifer complied, and the letter was sent to Vicki and her attorney in

November 2009.

¶ 153 Patton testified that in December 2009, she and Vicki’s attorney began negotiations

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around the issue of Vicki signing the consent. Vicki made several demands, including waiver

of any child support obligations. Patton informed Vicki and her attorney that it would be very

inappropriate to make such an agreement and that it would not be permitted under Illinois

law. However, they agreed to include a clause that stated that if it was permitted under

Colorado law, Aaron would waive any collection of arrearage of support payment. Patton

testified that Vicki’s attorney emailed her and stated that Vicki had signed the consent in his

presence. Patton never received the consent because the attorney told her that they would not

release it until Aaron demonstrated in good faith that he would stop the pursuit of arrearages;

the same day, Aaron emailed someone in Colorado to ask them to stop collection of

arrearages.

¶ 154 Patton conveyed that information to Vicki’s attorney, who told Patton that Vicki had the

consent form and would not give it to him. Vicki had instructed him to inform her when the

arrearages had been stopped and she would mail it to Aaron, her attorney, or Patton. Patton

testified that she never received the consent and understood from Vicki’s attorney that Vicki

“left” and stopped returning the attorney’s calls. When Vicki did not send the consent form,

Aaron again contacted the Colorado authorities to have the arrearages reinstated.

¶ 155 Patton testified that she filed a petition to adopt, still treating it as an uncontested matter,

and served it on Vicki, although it was difficult to locate Vicki because she would not

cooperate. Once it became clear that the adoption would be contested, Patton did not believe

she was the appropriate attorney to handle the matter and referred Aaron and Jennifer to a

different attorney.

¶ 156 4. Betty

¶ 157 Betty D., Aaron’s mother, also testified on behalf of Aaron and Jennifer. Betty testified

that Vicki called her in 2002 and informed Betty that she was considering having an abortion

and needed some funds. Betty testified that she first met the child in Missouri when he was

three months old; she, Aaron, and Jennifer met Vicki, Vicki’s grandparents, and the child in

a Burger King parking lot. Vicki immediately asked for money; she had required them to

bring a check in order to be able to visit with the child. Betty was annoyed and told Vicki that

she was not going to hand out money in the parking lot; they went inside the restaurant and

sat down. After some time, Vicki again asked for the money and was unhappy when Betty

had a check and not cash. Vicki’s grandfather took Betty to the bank and they cashed the

check.

¶ 158 Betty testified that she visited with the child on Memorial Day weekend in 2005. Aaron

had provided Vicki with a hotel room, and Betty and her husband went to the hotel to pick

up Vicki and the child and take them to dinner. After dinner, Betty took Vicki and the child

to Betty’s home, where they talked for several hours. Betty testified that Vicki told her that

she had conflicts with her husband, including domestic violence, and that the police had

taken her to a women’s shelter. Vicki was asked to leave the shelter because of a conflict

with the people who ran the shelter. Vicki told Betty that she called her mother and made

arrangements to stay at a hotel; her grandmother, her mother, and her aunt were to pick her

up from the shelter. Vicki told Betty that she did not stay at the hotel because there was a

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fight in the hotel room; Vicki thought her aunt was stealing her money, and there was a

physical altercation. Betty testified that Vicki informed her that the child was present during

the altercation.

¶ 159 Betty testified that during that same conversation, Vicki informed her that she was on

disability income and that if she had a job, she would lose her disability income. Vicki told

Betty that the reason for her disability was that she was raped by two people in the Army.

¶ 160 Betty testified that the next time she saw Vicki was the next day. Vicki called her and

asked her to come to the hotel because there were police outside her door. Betty went to the

hotel and there were two officers from the Cook County sheriff’s department at her door.

They told Betty that they were there to deliver some papers to Vicki. Vicki would not open

the door and seemed very upset, and Betty told the officers that she was concerned about the

child because she did not hear any noise coming from inside the room. After speaking to

someone on their walkie-talkies, the officers told Vicki that if she did not open the door

immediately, they would call the police department and have them come and take the door

down at her expense. Vicki opened the door and the officers gave her the paperwork; Betty

testified that Vicki “read the paperwork and in a matter of moments she became hysterical.”

Betty testified that Vicki was “very, very angry” and immediately informed the officers that

Aaron had come in and beaten her, hitting her in the head, arms, and legs. Vicki told the

officers that she had a friend who could be a witness, but was unable to provide the friend’s

name.

¶ 161 Betty testified that she stayed with Vicki for a while because Vicki was upset, and then

picked up the child seat she had lent Vicki the night before and began to leave. Vicki insisted

that the child seat was hers and called the police department to report that Betty was stealing

her child seat. The police contacted Betty and she told them the child seat was hers, offering

to provide a receipt for it if necessary.

¶ 162 Betty testified that she went to Colorado to pick up the child in July 2005 after Vicki’s

brother contacted them. After they retrieved the child, they drove back to Illinois, stopping

at a hotel overnight. At the hotel, Betty noticed that the child had slivers all over his feet.

Shortly after they returned, Betty was with her husband and child playing in the backyard

when someone from DCFS arrived and examined the child’s feet.

¶ 163 Betty testified that once in November 2003, she and her husband were going to Hawaii

and had a layover in San Francisco, so they contacted Vicki to determine if they would be

able to visit the child. Vicki agreed, saying that she would bring the child to the airport, but

prior to the visit, Vicki informed Betty that they could only visit with the child if they sent

a check for $700 to have Vicki’s vehicle repaired. Betty did not have the money, so they were

unable to visit the child; Betty was upset about it.

¶ 164 5. GAL

¶ 165 The GAL also testified on behalf of Aaron and Jennifer. She testified that while she does

not usually participate in the fitness portion of adoption proceedings, she did in this case

because of the presence of the child’s name on the Internet. She investigated both Vicki and

Aaron and Jennifer, since Vicki’s counsel had also raised the issue of Aaron and Jennifer’s

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fitness. The GAL testified that at some point, someone had mentioned searching for the

child’s name on Google, so she did so herself and discovered a number of photographs and

blogs that she believed were inappropriate, including claims that the child was the result of

a rape and that he was not wanted.

¶ 166 The GAL testified that through her Internet research, she discovered that Vicki had made

inquiries about how to remove the items from the Internet, but that the first time she did so

was two weeks before trial.

¶ 167 6. Leita

¶ 168 Leita P., Vicki’s grandmother, testified on Vicki’s behalf. She testified that when the

child was still a baby, Vicki came to Missouri with him to visit. They also visited with

Aaron, Jennifer, and Betty, meeting them at a Burger King near their hotel; Vicki, Leita’s

husband, and the child were also present at the Burger King. Leita testified that Vicki did not

yell at anyone at the Burger King or ask for money, but Leita’s husband did ask for money;

Leita testified that her husband was slightly rude when asking for the money.

¶ 169 7. Donna

¶ 170 Donna L., Vicki’s mother, also testified on Vicki’s behalf. She testified that one evening

in August 2002, Vicki called her, upset, and asked Donna to pick her up. Donna picked Vicki

up from a hospital in Colorado Springs; Vicki was hysterical and was crying on the way

home. Vicki told Donna and Donna’s boyfriend that Aaron had raped her. The next morning,

Donna and her boyfriend went to the OTC to see Aaron, but they were not permitted to enter

by the guard. Vicki discovered that she was pregnant and was given prenatal vitamins. Donna

testified that they did not report the rape to the police.

¶ 171 Donna testified that she created a Myspace page for the child, but removed it as soon as

Vicki’s attorney told her to.

¶ 172 8. Sunday

¶ 173 Vicki also called Sunday C., a friend, to testify on her behalf. Sunday testified that she

was present when the child was born. She testified that Vicki was a wonderful mother.

¶ 174 F. Trial Court Ruling

¶ 175 On April 26, 2012, the trial court read its 25-page ruling, finding that Vicki was unfit on

the basis of depravity and failure to maintain contact with the child. The court first recounted

the proceedings on the case and the parties’ testimony. The court then recited the standard

for finding Vicki unfit and recounted the information it relied on in making its decision. The

court read extensively from Vicki’s Internet posts on blogs, Myspace, and Facebook, which

the court found were important in making its decision. The court noted that Vicki was an

exotic dancer, which was not illegal, but found that her photographs on the Internet were

“disturbing,” because they depicted “[Vicki’s] interest in bondage. Photographs with her

hanging from chains with her wrist cuffed. Pictures skimpily dressed; pictures with her hand

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at her genitals, very, very suggestive photographs. All of these were found on the Internet by

the GAL, all by Googling [the child’s] name. This is particularly disturbing.”

¶ 176 The court next discussed Vicki’s involvement with the police, beginning with “domestic

disputes; violence with Joel ***, her husband; arguments with landlords; arguments with

roommates; arguments with doctors at the VA Hospital; arguments at the school she

attended; arguments with Aaron; arguments with Betty ***. Everywhere Vicki goes, life is

chaos.” The court also discussed Vicki’s demeanor in court, noting that “she was late

because they had a flat. She was late because they got stopped for a ticket. She missed the

first court date because she claimed she didn’t know that she had the court date, and then she

appeared a week later on a default hearing which I vacated.” The court further pointed out

that “[h]er behavior in court even when she knew she was being observed was petulant;

sometimes uncooperative; sometimes she had a bored affect. There were several times when

I noted that she sat and examined her manicure while on the stand, yawned, sighed, and

stretched loudly on and off the stand. There were accusations that she made faces at the other

participants, although I did not see them. Even though she knew she was being watched, and

under high scrutiny in court, her behavior was inappropriate, or minimally appropriate.”

¶ 177 The court also found Vicki’s testimony incredible: “Her credibility was lacking

significantly. Throughout the trial everything that happened was not her fault. She had an

excuse for everything. Someone hacked into her Facebook account. She didn’t send the

emails. Oddly, she couldn’t recall her own address, even though she rattled off almost every

address ever asked of her. She was evasive at times, and simply lacking in any credibility.”

The trial court again discussed Vicki’s occupation as an exotic dancer and Vicki’s fears

about using her own name because she did not want her customers to know where she was.

The trial court further agreed with Dr. Edger’s conclusion that Vicki was bipolar and

incapable of conforming her behavior to a moral standard that is acceptable.

¶ 178 The trial court concluded by again referring to Vicki’s blog postings:

“The thought that a child could go on online and see what is on these blogs on the

Internet is just incomprehensible to me. The thought that his friends could see any of

these things. There was one entry which I think I neglected to read that indicated that

[Vicki] said she had thought she wouldn’t tell [the child] about the rape until he was

older, indicating that, perhaps, she had told him about the rape. I certainly hope that’s not

the case. Given the lack of credibility, I don’t believe that it was a rape. I believe it was

consensual sex, and I believe that the behavior exhibited throughout the ensuing years

has shown a lack of ability to conform to a moral standard[ ] which is acceptable and,

thus, that [Vicki] reaches the definition of depravity.”

¶ 179 The court also found Vicki unfit on the basis of failing to maintain reasonable contact

with the child. The court noted that Vicki “knows her way around the court system.” The

court noted that Vicki had supervised visits and phone visitation, but that they always ended

due to Vicki’s conduct. Once the visits were terminated, Vicki accepted the result, choosing

not to proceed through the court system to reinstate contact.

¶ 180 The court noted that Vicki traveled around the country to dance but never chose to work

in Illinois; “[t]hroughout this time she could have come here; worked here; established some

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relationship with her son, but she did not.” The court found Dr. Edger’s report to be credible

and supported by Vicki’s actions in court and by her testimony, as well as by the evidence

submitted at trial. The court found:

“It is hereby the finding of this Court that Vicki *** is found to be unfit on the bases

of depravity and failure to maintain contact. In so saying, I am not saying that she doesn’t

want to be a good parent. I think she does; however, the evidence is overwhelming that

she is not able to be so, and that she is simply incapable of conforming to societal

norms.”

The court ordered Vicki’s rights terminated and by request of the parties, immediately

proceeded to the best interest hearing.

¶ 181 On the same day, the trial court entered an order finding that the adoption of the child by

Aaron and Jennifer was in the child’s best interest, and on April 30, 2012, the court entered

a judgment order for adoption. In the judgment order for adoption, the court found that Vicki

was an unfit parent in that she was depraved and failed to maintain a reasonable degree of

interest, concern, or responsibility as to the child’s welfare, which had been determined

following a trial on the issue of fitness. The court further found that the child had resided

with Aaron and Jennifer for seven years and that Aaron and Jennifer had continued to co-

parent the child cooperatively since their divorce in 2011, and entered the judgment order of

adoption. The instant appeal follows.

¶ 182 ANALYSIS

¶ 183 On appeal, Vicki argues that the trial court’s decision that she was unfit was not

supported by clear and convincing evidence. Vicki also makes several arguments concerning

the fairness of her trial, none of which are supported with case law and some of which are

raised for the first time on appeal, so we do not consider them. However, prior to addressing

the merits of Vicki’s claim, we consider an argument she makes concerning Aaron and

Jennifer’s standing to file an adoption petition.

¶ 184 I. Validity of Adoption Petition

¶ 185 Vicki argues that since Aaron and Jennifer are no longer adopting as a married couple

but as unmarried individuals, they are not statutorily permitted to adopt. To determine

whether Aaron and Jennifer have standing to file an adoption petition, we examine the

statute. Since the construction of a statute is a question of law, we review it de novo. J.S.A.

v. M.H., 224 Ill. 2d 182, 196 (2007). De novo consideration means we perform the same

analysis that a trial judge would perform. Khan v. BDO Seidman, LLP, 408 Ill. App. 3d 564,

578 (2011).

¶ 186 The Adoption Act (the Act) (750 ILCS 50/0.01 et seq. (West 2008)) sets forth who may

adopt a child:

“A reputable person of legal age and of either sex, provided that if such person is married

and has not been living separate and apart from his or her spouse for 12 months or

longer, his or her spouse shall be a party to the adoption proceeding, including a husband

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or wife desiring to adopt a child of the other spouse, in all of which cases the adoption

shall be by both spouses jointly[.]” 750 ILCS 50/2(A)(a) (West 2008).

The Act additionally defines a “related child” as “a child subject to adoption where either or

both of the adopting parents stands in any of the following relationships to the child by blood

or marriage: parent, grand-parent, brother, sister, step-parent, step-grandparent, step-brother,

step-sister, uncle, aunt, great-uncle, great-aunt, or cousin of first degree.” 750 ILCS 50/1(B)

(West 2008).

¶ 187 The Act also provides several instructions concerning construction of the Act. First, the

Act provides that “this Act shall be liberally construed, and the rule that statutes in

derogation of the common law must be strictly construed shall not apply to this Act” (750

ILCS 50/20 (West 2008)), and further instructs that “[t]he best interests and welfare of the

person to be adopted shall be of paramount consideration in the construction and

interpretation of this Act” (750 ILCS 50/20a (West 2008)). Finally, the Act states that “[t]he

singular includes the plural and the plural includes the singular and the ‘male’ includes the

‘female’, as the context of this Act may require.” 750 ILCS 50/1(G) (West 2008).

¶ 188 In the case at bar, Vicki argues that Aaron and Jennifer did not have standing to file a

petition to adopt the child because they were two unmarried individuals and not a married

couple. We do not find this argument persuasive. While Vicki claims that this issue is one

of first impression, we agree with Aaron and Jennifer that the 1995 appellate case of In re

Petition of K.M., 274 Ill. App. 3d 189 (1995), permits them to file their petition as unmarried

persons.

¶ 189 In K.M., the appellate court considered whether same-sex individuals had standing to file

an adoption petition. The court considered two cases, both involving lesbian couples. In the

first case, one of the petitioners was the natural mother of the child; in the other, one of the

petitioners was the natural mother of one of the children sought to be adopted and the

adoptive mother of the other. Thus, in each case, one of the petitioners was already the legal

mother of the child sought to be adopted.

¶ 190 In determining whether the Act should be interpreted to permit unmarried individuals to

jointly adopt, the K.M. court noted that the Act was to be liberally construed and expressly

provides for plural construction to be given to singular terms. K.M., 274 Ill. App. 3d at 194,

195. The court also found the Act’s definition of “related child” to be significant:

“The definition of a ‘related child’ cited above contemplates a situation in which only

one–‘either’–of the adopting parents is related to the child ‘by blood or marriage.’ If only

one of the adopting parents is related by blood or marriage, the second adopting parent

clearly need not be so related. If, however, *** only married couples can adopt, then both

adopting parents will always be related to the child by blood or marriage. Such an

interpretation would render meaningless the statute’s use of the term ‘either’ in section

1(B). [Citation.] The fact that the statute provides that ‘either’ adopting parent may be

related to the child by blood or marriage necessarily implies that unmarried couples can

adopt; this is the only reading of the statute that makes the use of the term ‘either’

meaningful.” (Emphases in original.) K.M., 274 Ill. App. 3d at 198 (quoting 750 ILCS

50/1(B) (West 1994)).

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¶ 191 The court concluded that “[l]iberal construction of the language of the Act *** would

allow adoption by two persons where either or both stands in any of the listed relationships

to the child,” including the situation where the petition for adoption is filed by one parent of

the child and that parent’s unmarried partner. (Emphases in original.) K.M., 274 Ill. App. 3d

at 198. The court further pointed out that the “related child” provision had been used several

times to determine that certain classes of people were able to adopt. K.M., 274 Ill. App. 3d

at 200 (citing In re Adoption of Ruiz, 164 Ill. App. 3d 1036 (1987) (grandparents could

adopt), and Madsen v. Chasten, 7 Ill. App. 3d 21 (1972) (older adults could adopt, because

the Act contemplates people of grandparent age as able to adopt)).

¶ 192 Finally, the court noted that sufficient safeguards were in place to prevent any abuses of

the Act:

“While it must be acknowledged, as the circuit court fears, that such an interpretation

of the Act would in fact give standing to petition to any group considering itself a family

where one or more of the members of the group were related to the child or children to

be adopted, the circuit court retains the safeguard of evaluating whether the granting of

such a petition would be in the best interests of the child or children. Such a safeguard

will prevent adoption of any child by a ‘cult group’ where such adoption would not be

in the child’s best interests.” K.M., 274 Ill. App. 3d at 201.

¶ 193 In the case at bar, we agree with Aaron and Jennifer that K.M. clearly supports their

ability to jointly petition to adopt the child. There is no question that Aaron is related to the

child by blood, so the situation here is essentially identical to that presented in K.M.: one

petitioner is the child’s natural parent and the other is not, but the two seek to jointly adopt

the child. We are not persuaded by Vicki’s distinction that in K.M., “the petitioners

presumably lived together and maintained an intimate relationship supportive of the best

interests of the minor child.” The K.M. court did not reach its conclusion based on the fact

that the petitioners were currently living together; the court specifically noted that the

statutory language contemplated unmarried people adopting and that the consideration of the

child’s best interest would prevent any abuses. In the case at bar, in granting the petition to

adopt, the court found that it was in the best interest of the child to permit Aaron and Jennifer

to adopt him. Thus, we cannot find that Aaron and Jennifer lacked standing to file an

adoption petition and proceed to consider the merits of Vicki’s argument.

¶ 194 II. Determination of Unfitness

¶ 195 Vicki argues that the trial court’s finding that she was unfit was not supported by clear

and convincing evidence. In reviewing an adoption petition that alleges one parent is unfit,

the trial court must first determine whether the parent is unfit. In re Adoption of G.L.G., 307

Ill. App. 3d 953, 963 (1999). If the parent is found unfit, the court then considers whether the

adoption is in the child’s best interest. G.L.G., 307 Ill. App. 3d at 963. In the case at bar,

Vicki’s sole focus is the trial court’s finding of unfitness, so we limit our review to that issue

and do not discuss whether the adoption is in the child’s best interest.

¶ 196 Parental unfitness must be proven by clear and convincing evidence. In re Adoption of

Syck, 138 Ill. 2d 255, 273-74 (1990). The burden of proving unfitness is upon those who

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have petitioned for adoption of the child. Syck, 138 Ill. 2d at 274. Since the trial court was

in the best position to view and evaluate the parties, its decision is entitled to great deference,

and a finding of unfitness will not be reversed unless it is against the manifest weight of the

evidence. In re Brown, 86 Ill. 2d 147, 152 (1981). A finding is against the manifest weight

of the evidence only where the opposite conclusion is clearly apparent. In re Gwynne P., 215

Ill. 2d 340, 354 (2005).

¶ 197 In the case at bar, the trial court found that Vicki was unfit under both sections 1(D)(i)

and (b) of the Adoption Act. Since the grounds for unfitness are independent, evidence

supporting any one of the alleged statutory grounds is sufficient to uphold a finding of

unfitness. In re E.O., 311 Ill. App. 3d 720, 726 (2000); In re T.Y., 334 Ill. App. 3d 894, 905

(2002); In re M.J., 314 Ill. App. 3d 649, 655 (2000); see also In re D.L., 191 Ill. 2d 1, 8

(2000) (section 1(D) lists a variety of discrete grounds for finding a parent unfit and a

challenge of only one ground of unfitness among several renders the appeal moot).

Accordingly, unless the trial court’s finding of unfitness under both sections 1(D)(i) and (b)

were against the manifest weight of the evidence, we must affirm the court’s decision

regarding fitness.

¶ 198 A. Depravity

¶ 199 The trial court first found that Vicki was unfit under section 1(D)(i), which provides:

“(i) Depravity. Conviction of any one of the following crimes shall create a

presumption that a parent is depraved which can be overcome only by clear and

convincing evidence: (1) first degree murder in violation of paragraph 1 or 2 of

subsection (a) of Section 9-1 of the Criminal Code of 1961 [(720 ILCS 5/9-1 (West

2008))] or conviction of second degree murder in violation of subsection (a) of Section

9-2 of the Criminal Code of 1961 of a parent of the child to be adopted; (2) first degree

murder or second degree murder of any child in violation of the Criminal Code of 1961;

(3) attempt or conspiracy to commit first degree murder or second degree murder of any

child in violation of the Criminal Code of 1961; (4) solicitation to commit murder of any

child, solicitation to commit murder of any child for hire, or solicitation to commit

second degree murder of any child in violation of the Criminal Code of 1961; (5)

predatory criminal sexual assault of a child in violation of Section 11-1.40 or 12-14.1 of

the Criminal Code of 1961; (6) heinous battery of any child in violation of the Criminal

Code of 1961; or (7) aggravated battery of a child in violation of the Criminal Code of

1961.

There is a rebuttable presumption that a parent is depraved if the parent has been

criminally convicted of at least 3 felonies under the laws of this State or any other state,

or under federal law, or the criminal laws of any United States territory; and at least one

of those convictions took place within 5 years of the filing of the petition or motion

seeking termination of parental rights.

There is a rebuttable presumption that a parent is depraved if that parent has been

criminally convicted of either first or second degree murder of any person as defined in

the Criminal Code of 1961 within 10 years of the filing date of the petition or motion to

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terminate parental rights.

No conviction or finding of delinquency pursuant to Article 5 of the Juvenile Court

Act of 1987 shall be considered a criminal conviction for the purpose of applying any

presumption under this item (i).” 750 ILCS 50/1(D)(i) (West 2008).

¶ 200 The Act does not define depravity, but the Illinois Supreme Court has held that depravity

consists of “an inherent deficiency of moral sense and rectitude.” (Internal quotation marks

omitted.) In re Donald A.G., 221 Ill. 2d 234, 240-41 (2006); In re Abdullah, 85 Ill. 2d 300,

305 (1981); Stalder v. Stone, 412 Ill. 488, 498 (1952). “ ‘Depravity may be shown by a series

of acts or a course of conduct which indicates a deficiency in a moral sense and shows either

an inability or an unwillingness to conform to accepted morality.’ ” In re Adoption of Baby

Girl Casale, 266 Ill. App. 3d 656, 663 (1994) (quoting In re M.B.C., 125 Ill. App. 3d 512,

514 (1984)); In re Marriage of T.H., 255 Ill. App. 3d 247, 255 (1993). In order to establish

unfitness, “clear and convincing evidence of depravity must be shown to exist at the time of

the petition, and the ‘acts constituting depravity *** must be of sufficient duration and of

sufficient repetition to establish a ‘deficiency’ in moral sense and either an inability or an

unwillingness to conform to accepted morality.’ ” In re J.A., 316 Ill. App. 3d 553, 561 (2000)

(quoting In re Adoption of Kleba, 37 Ill. App. 3d 163, 166 (1976)).

¶ 201 In determining depravity, the trier of fact is required to closely scrutinize the character

and credibility of the parent, and the reviewing court should give deferential treatment to the

determination of the trier of fact. J.A., 316 Ill. App. 3d at 563 (citing In re A.L., 301 Ill. App.

3d 198, 202 (1998)). Because each case involving parental unfitness is sui generis, courts do

not make factual comparisons to other cases. In re J’America B., 346 Ill. App. 3d 1034, 1046

(2004) (citing J.A., 316 Ill. App. 3d at 561).

¶ 202 In the case at bar, the trial court found that Vicki was depraved for a number of reasons.

The court first read extensively from Vicki’s Internet posts on blogs, Myspace, and

Facebook, which the court found were important in making its decision. The court noted that

Vicki was an exotic dancer, which was not illegal, but found that her photographs on the

Internet were “disturbing,” because they depicted “[Vicki’s] interest in bondage. Photographs

with her hanging from chains with her wrist cuffed. Pictures skimpily dressed; pictures with

her hand at her genitals, very, very suggestive photographs. All of these were found on the

Internet by the GAL, all by Googling [the child’s] name. This is particularly disturbing.”

¶ 203 The court next discussed Vicki’s involvement with the police, beginning with “domestic

disputes; violence with Joel ***, her husband; arguments with landlords; arguments with

roommates; arguments with doctors at the VA Hospital; arguments at the school she

attended; arguments with Aaron; arguments with Betty ***. Everywhere Vicki goes, life is

chaos.” The court also discussed Vicki’s demeanor in court, noting that “she was late

because they had a flat. She was late because they got stopped for a ticket. She missed the

first court date because she claimed she didn’t know that she had the court date, and then she

appeared a week later on a default hearing which I vacated.” The court further pointed out

that “[h]er behavior in court even when she knew she was being observed was petulant;

sometimes uncooperative; sometimes she had a bored affect. There were several times when

I noted that she sat and examined her manicure while on the stand, yawned, signed, and

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stretched loudly on and off the stand. There were accusations that she made faces at the other

participants, although I did not see them. Even though she knew she was being watched, and

under high scrutiny in court, her behavior was inappropriate, or minimally appropriate.”

¶ 204 The court also found Vicki’s testimony incredible: “Her credibility was lacking

significantly. Throughout the trial everything that happened was not her fault. She had an

excuse for everything. Someone hacked into her Facebook account. She didn’t send the

emails. Oddly, she couldn’t recall her own address, even though she rattled off almost every

address ever asked of her. She was evasive at times, and simply lacking in any credibility.”

The trial court again discussed Vicki’s occupation as an exotic dancer and Vicki’s fears

about using her own name because she did not want her customers to know where she was.

The trial court further agreed with Dr. Edger’s conclusion that Vicki was bipolar and

incapable of conforming her behavior to a moral standard that is acceptable.

¶ 205 The trial court concluded by again referring to Vicki’s blog postings:

“The thought that a child could go on online and see what is on these blogs on the

Internet is just incomprehensible to me. The thought that his friends could see any of

these things. There was one entry which I think I neglected to read that indicated that

[Vicki] said she had thought she wouldn’t tell [the child] about the rape until he was

older, indicating that, perhaps, she had told him about the rape. I certainly hope that’s not

the case. Given the lack of credibility, I don’t believe that it was a rape. I believe it was

consensual sex, and I believe that the behavior exhibited throughout the ensuing years

has shown a lack of ability to conform to a moral standard[ ] which is acceptable and,

thus, that [Vicki] reaches the definition of depravity.”

¶ 206 We cannot find the trial court’s decision that Vicki was depraved is against the manifest

weight of the evidence. The trial court explained thoroughly everything that it was relying

on in reaching its decision, appearing to weigh most heavily the postings and photographs

on the Internet, as well as Vicki’s demeanor. We cannot find that this decision was in error,

especially since the trial court was in the position to observe Vicki throughout the trial and

was able to observe the progress of the entire case throughout the lengthy litigation.

¶ 207 We find Vicki’s argument that her behavior does not constitute depravity to be

unpersuasive. Vicki points to the language in the Act that establishes presumptions in favor

of depravity, arguing that her behavior falls quite short of the type of conduct that results in

a presumption of depravity. We agree that Vicki’s behavior is not on the same scale as

murder or predatory criminal sexual assault, both of which result in a presumption of

depravity. However, the commission of these types of crimes is not required in order for a

person to be considered depraved. For instance, courts have found a person’s use of drugs

and alcohol to be sufficient for a finding of depravity. See Baby Girl Casale, 266 Ill. App.

3d at 663. As noted, “ ‘[d]epravity may be shown by a series of acts or a course of conduct

which indicates a deficiency in a moral sense and shows either an inability or an

unwillingness to conform to accepted morality.’ ” Baby Girl Casale, 266 Ill. App. 3d at 663

(quoting M.B.C., 125 Ill. App. 3d at 514). In the case at bar, the trial court found that Vicki’s

conduct rose to that level, and we do not find that decision to be against the manifest weight

of the evidence. Accordingly, we affirm the trial court’s finding of unfitness based on

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depravity.

¶ 208 B. Lack of Interest, Concern, or Responsibility for the Child’s Welfare

¶ 209 The trial court also found Vicki unfit based on section 1(D)(b) of the Act, which concerns

“[f]ailure to maintain a reasonable degree of interest, concern or responsibility as to the

child’s welfare.” 750 ILCS 50/1(D)(b) (West 2008). However, since we have found that the

trial court’s finding of unfitness based on depravity is not against the manifest weight of the

evidence, we have no need to consider the alternate ground of unfitness.

¶ 210 CONCLUSION

¶ 211 We find that the trial court’s determination that Vicki was unfit is not against the

manifest weight of the evidence and, accordingly, affirm the trial court’s decision to

terminate Vicki’s parental rights.

¶ 212 Affirmed.

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